Up until 9 years ago, I didn’t even know that pet therapy was a thing.
I knew that I had always loved being around animals but never really took the time to acknowledge why that might be.
It wasn’t until 2010 when I was struggling with an extremely bad bout of depression that my therapist at the time suggested I try pet therapy.
Antidepressants and regular therapy sessions just weren’t cutting it for me anymore. Before fully understanding what this form of therapy might entail, I jumped at the word pet!
Why hadn’t I considered the companionship of a four legged friend?
At this point I did what any impulsive 17 year old would do. I went on the hunt for my new puppy!
Today feels like the perfect day to write this article.
The sun is shining, it’s 30 degrees outside, and it feels like summer is FINALLY here!
Along with every other person on the face of the planet, I typically jump at the opportunity to take full advantage of patio season.
There’s just one thing that seems to be missing…
Where the hell is my double G&T?
Have you ever felt like your living situation was just too overwhelming?
You come home at the end of a long day, completely exhausted and all you want to do is relax and put your feet up.
But you can’t. Because there’s dirty dishes in the sink, the laundry is piled up so high that it’s taking over half of your bedroom and your roommate has left a trail of shit so long you can tell EXACTLY where they’ve been? #humantornado
You are not alone babe!
I too have been entangled with people who simply don’t pick up after themselves. Leaving my apartment to resemble a barn and my sanity to be, well non existent.
Inevitably there came a time where it became so bad that I had to reevaluate my living space and my relationship!
Why? Because I no longer felt safe and happy in my space and I knew that something had to change.
I was being called to act NOW or accept the fact that 30 years down the road, a friend would call me up and say “Hey Keisha, I was just flipping through channels and saw you on an episode of hoarders!”
I refused for this to be my fate.
How can you crush your goals and create a life you love when your environment is chaotic and stressful?
Show of hands if you’ve ever felt like you couldn’t live your life openly as your most authentic self.
Have you ever felt embarrassed or ashamed of who you are? Or felt forced to come to terms with the fact that you’re simply the black sheep of your family?
Perhaps you’ve spent your time daydreaming of what it might feel like if you could just show up as the bold and eccentric human being that you are at your very core!
Well, me too.
Lately I’ve began to unravel parts of myself that I’ve been subconsciously suppressing for the last 10 years. This all consuming fear derived from me worrying WAY too much about what other people would think of me.
If I could just muster up all of my strength and come forward as the flaming lesbian that I’ve always been, what would happen?
Would they treat me differently if they really knew the truth?
Will they accept me for me?
What if they stop loving me because they don’t understand?
I’ll tell you what babe, NONE of these things can possibly feel worse than living a lie and pretending to be someone you’re not.
Not a single one of them.
Anxiety is a term used so loosely in the 21st century.
Not only has it started trending amongst today’s millennials, but it’s rapidly evolved into a full blown epidemic!
Nowadays it seems as though every other person I meet is struggling with some form of anxiety, whether it’s generalized, social, or a result of some form of trauma.
We’ve become nervous, worried, and stressed out beyond repair!
To be honest, I’m surprised so many of us are even functioning at all while trying to cope with the increased societal pressure and never-ending demands of day to day life.
It’s just too much.
Recently I’ve been battling a period of depression which has consisted of more days laying around in bed binge watching Grey’s Anatomy than I am proud of.
My productivity levels have tanked and the gym currently resembles a long lost friend.
Most days I wake up completely and utterly exhausted!
Whether this exhaustion derives from waking up at 3am unable to go back to sleep and stressing about finances, or simply because I’ve been in and out of sleep for hours, I am not sure.
What I do know is this.
It is imperative that I channel what little energy I do have into practicing self-love!
Self-love means something vastly different to everyone which is why I’ve narrowed it down to a few key steps to help clear up any confusion.
You don’t need to drain your savings account and splurge on a dozen LUSH bath bombs in order to show yourself some TLC.
So how can we practice self-love when we can hardly get out of bed in the morning?
October is officially among us and I’m about it!
I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to throw on my biggest grandma sweater and snuggle up on the couch with a hot cup of chai, my fur babies and a good old fashioned Hallmark movie. #basicb
Despite my basic white girl mentality this time of year, I’m faced with additional stress revolving around my mental health.
What is it about the leaves changing colour and all of summers beauty fading away that we find ourselves battling such an intense mental shift?
Can anyone else relate to the immense power struggle with your own mind during a change in seasons?
Over the years I’ve developed several preventative coping mechanisms to assist me during these times.
There is a certain level of self-awareness that allows me to prepare as best as I possibly can to avoid spiralling into a full blown mental break down.
Somewhere along my journey, I began to realize that I’ve actually experienced some extremely life altering events that have allowed me to become the person I am today.
Events that have taught me valuable life lessons, pushed me outside of my comfort zone, and truly allowed me to see the bigger picture.
I thought to myself, “who has positively impacted my life and inspired me to grow into the best possible version of myself?”
Suddenly is became abundantly clear. My ex!
Let’s get one thing straight. There are two types of people in this world.
Those who wake up in the morning feeling energized and enthusiastic, and those who hit snooze 10 times before dreadfully pulling themselves out of their warm, cozy bed.
If you’re anything like me and struggle to get your ass up early and join the rest of the functioning world, I feel your pain.
It’s taken me a VERY long time to adjust to this societal expectation and I can proudly say that I’ve finally found a routine that makes me want to jump out of bed in the morning!
I can only imagine what you must be thinking as you scrolled past the topic of today’s post. How is this even possible?
Who would dare try and manage their mental health issues without prescription medication? Is this person a lunatic?
I’ve experienced this reaction from the vast majority of my friends, family, and psychologists over the years. Some of which have even gone to the extent of labeling me “irresponsible” or “misguided” (which I let upset me for far too long).
So how exactly have I managed to stay sane, healthy, and functional to this day without the use of prescription medication?
Let me tell you.